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Ihsan Ahmad Zulkarnain
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Want to be a best man? Be best to your ladies.

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Assalamu 'alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

Our Prophet, Muhammad (SAW), are the best of mankind, the best in his character. As he said,
"The best amongst you are those who are best in his character. And the best of them are those who are best to their ladies. And I (Muhammad SAW) am best to my ladies." [thirmidthi]
Yeah, Prophet Muhammad SAW taught us to be best to our ladies, not only to our wife, but also to our mother and our daughters.

Best to his wife

He was best to Khadijah (RA), his wife. Even though she was much older than him, it didnt bother him at all. He loved her so deeply, and she loved him as deeply. They were married for 25 years, and she gave him birth of seven children: 3 sons and 4 daughters. When others blamed their wife whenever they gave them a birth of girl, the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was one of few man who was always grateful to his wife whenever she gave him a birth, no matter it was boy or girl.

He loved her so much. Khadijah (RA) was a source of immense love, strength, and comfort for the Prophet Muhammad, and he leaned heavily on this love and support on the most important night of his life. After his ministry began, and the opposition of his people became harsh and brutal, Khadijah (RA) was always there to support the Prophet Muhammad (SAW), sacrificing all of her wealth to support the cause of Islam. 

When the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and his family was banished to the hills outside of Makkah, she went there with him, and the three years of hardship and deprivation eventually led to her death. The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) mourned her deeply, and even after her death, the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) would send food and support to Khadijah’s friends and relatives, out of love for his first wife.

Once, years after Khadijah (RA) died, he came across a necklace that she once wore (I will tell this detailed story in another post). When he saw it, he remembered her and began to cry and mourn. His love for her never died, so much so, that his later wife Ayesha once felt jealous of her. Once she asked the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) if Khadijah (RA) had been the only woman worthy of his love. The Prophet replied:
“She believed in me when no one else did; she accepted Islam when people rejected me; and she helped and comforted me when there was no one else to lend me a helping hand.”
Many of what we call “love stories” today are nothing more than stories of lust and desire, physical attraction disguised as love. Yet, I can find no love story more powerful, more spiritually uplifting, more awe inspiring as that of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and Khadijah (RA). It is a shining example of what an ideal marriage is, and if you ever claim that you love yourwife, you must gauge your actions with that of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW).

One cannot help but reflect upon, that this is indeed, the greatest of all love stories : that of Muhammad (SAW) and Khadijah (RA).

Best to his mother

He was best to Fatimah binti Asad (RA), his aunt. She was wife of Abu Thalib, his uncle. When the Prophet’s grandfather, ‘Abdul Mutthalib, passed away, the guardianship of the orphan Muhammad (SAW) passed on to Abu Thalib. His wife, Fatimah binti Asad (RA), looked after him, loving him as if he were her own. He remembered in his later life that she would go hungry to feed him. He respected her so highly that whenever she visited him he would stand up and receive her with great love, addressing her as ‘Mother’.

Anas bin Malik said that when the Prophet (SAW) got news of the death of Fatimah binti Asad, he immediately went to her house, sat beside her and prayed for her.
“My dear mother, may Allah keep you under His Protection. Many times you went hungry in order to feed me well. You fed me and clothed me on delicacies that you denied yourself. Allah will surely be happy with these actions of yours. And your intentions were surely meant to win the goodwill and pleasure of Allah and success in the Hereafter.” 
He gave his shirt to be used as part of her shroud, saying he prayed to Allah to forgive her and give her the dress of Paradise. When the grave was prepared, the Prophet (SAW) himself examined it and with his own hands placed her into the grave. Thus, she was one of the few blessed people whose graves was examined by the Prophet (SAW) himself.

Prophet Muhammad (SAW) taught us to be best to the woman who raised us with her loves, no matter she is our biological mother or not.

Best to his daughters

He was best to Zainab (RA), Ruqayyah (RA), Ummu kultsum (RA), and Fatima Az-Zahra (RA), his daughters. When others buried alive their own daughters just because of shame, still, the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was the best father who didnt discriminate in loves for his sons and daughters, regardless of their gender.

He taught his daughters to be best women, best as wife and best as mother. Therefore, he also choosed best men to be best husbands for them. Here, I will just tell story about Zainab and how the Prophet (SAW) guided her in her household life.

Zainab (RA), the eldest daughter of Prophet Muhammad (SAW), married to Abu Al-Aas bin Rabii (RA), before the Prophet (SAW) had received his message and mission of Prophethood. Even though Abu Al-Aas (RA) had refused to accept Islam at first, the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) still acknowledged him as a good person, as he said,
“O people, I declare that this man was a very good son-in-law, he never broke his promise, and neither did he tell lies..."
Since one of Ayat in Surat At-Taubah commanded muslim to separate every mukminat from her husband who still hasn't accepted Islam yet, Zainab had to be separated with her adored husband. Because of deep love she felt on her ex-husband, she had always refused to remarry another man for six years. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) knew his daughter so well about how she felt on her ex-husband. He taught Zainab (RA),
“Be generous to him, he is your cousin and the father of your children, but don’t let him get near you as a husband. For he is a disbeliever and that is prohibited for you.”
The generosity of his ex-wife and his ex-father-in-law deeply touched the heart of Abu Al-Aas ibnu Rabii. He finally accepted Islam and asked his ex-father-in-law to let him marry his daughter again. The Prophet (SAW), with tears in his eyes smiled and responded, 
“Come with me.”
Together, father and son in law made their way to Zainab’s house and knocked on her door. The Prophet Muhammad SAW called out to his daughter saying,
“O Zainab, your cousin has accepted Islam and he came to me and asked if he can return to you as your husband”.
Just like twenty years before, her face turned red out of bashfulness and modesty and she simply smiled.

That is one of many stories which tell us about how generous the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) were towards his daughters. He understood his daughter so well, and guided them to their real happiness and blessedness in Islam ways.

That is all

Hope it can inspire all of you and me as well.

Want to be a best man like the Prophet Muhammad (SAW)? Be best to your ladies.

References
Ghafandar, M A. Great Women of Islam (Who were given the good news of Paradise)
Ibn Al-Atheer, Ali. Usd al-Ghabah. Vol. 5. Cairo: Dar Ihya Al-Turath Al-Aaraby, 1996.

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Ihsan Ahmad Zulkarnain
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Ada yang berani doa dengan doa Rasulullah SAW ini?

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Assalamu 'alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu
"laqad kana fi rasulillahi uswatun hasanah"  [QS Al-Ahzab: 21]
Kita semua sepakat bahwa totalitas dalam diri Rasulullah SAW itu ada teladan yang baik. Dari tutur kata Beliau, akhlak Beliau, kecerdasan Beliau, gaya hidup Beliau, hingga tata cara ibadah terbaik yang Beliau contohkan, termasuk juga dalam hal berdoa.

Rasulullah SAW mengajarkan kepada kita bahwasanya Allah SWT "malu" ketika ada hambanya yang berdoa kepada-Nya dengan penuh kerendahan dan penuh dengan pujian-pujian untuk-Nya melainkan Allah akan mengabulkannya. Sebagaimana Allah berfirman,
"Berdoalah kepada-Ku, niscaya akan Ku perkenankan bagimu. Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang menyombongkan diri dari menyembah-Ku akan masuk Neraka Jahannam dalan keadaan hina-dina" [QS Al-Mukmin: 60]
Di setiap kisah kehidupan Rasulullah SAW, kita akan banyak menemukan kisah doa-doa Rasulullah SAW yang kejadian terkabulnya disaksikan langsung oleh para sahabat atau bahkan oleh para kaum kafir Quraisy. Kita mengenal kisah keislaman Umar ibnu Khattab setelah Rasulullah SAW berdoa,
"Yaa Allah, kuatkanlah agama ini dengan keislaman salah seorang dari dua Umar" [HR At-Tirmidzi]
Dan masih banyak lagi kisah-kisah yang menunjukkan doa-doa Rasulullah senantiasa dikabulkan oleh Allah. Oleh karena itu, sudah seyogyanya bagi muslim untuk mencontoh Rasul dalam berbagai doa yang berkaitan dengan kehidupan kita.

Doa Rasulullah SAW yang paling populer

Doa Rasulullah yang paling populer di antara muslim dan memang merupakan doa yang paling rutin Rasulullah panjatkan adalah doa berikut,
"Rabbana 'atina fiddunya hasanah wa fil akhirati hasanah wa qina adzabannar" [HR Bukhari]
Biasanya muslim memanjatkan doa ini setiap setelah shalat. Doa ini populer disebut oleh orang-orang kita dengan sebutan "doa sapu jagad". Karena memang doa ini mencakupi segala aspek kebutuhan manusia akan kebaikan dalam kehidupan dunia dan akhirat dan kebutuhan manusia akan keselamatan dari siksa neraka.

Doa Rasulullah SAW yang paling tidak populer

Nah, ane di sini ga akan terlalu dalam membahas doa yang paling populer tadi. Tapi justru kebalikannya, ane akan membahas doa yang paling tidak populer. Entah karena masyarakat memang belum banyak yang tahu atau memang karena isi doanya yang cukup "gak mainstream". Berikut lafazh do'anya:
"Allahumma ahyini miskinan wa amitni miskinan wakhsyurni fi zumratil masakin" [HR. At-Tirmidzi]
Terjemahannya kira-kira seperti ini,

"Yaa Allah, hidupkan aku dalam keadaan miskin, dan matikan aku dalam keadaan miskin dan bangkitkanlah aku di hari akhir bersama orang-orang miskin".

Dalam beberapa tafsir, disebutkan bahwa yang dimaksud miskin dalam doa ini bukanlah kekurangan harta, melainkan miskin di sini maksudnya adalah tawadhu’ dan rendah hati.

Imam Baihaqi mengatakan, “Menurut saya, Nabi shalallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam tidak bermaksud meminta keadaan miskin yang berarti kurang harta tetapi miskin yang berarti tawadhu’ dan rendah hati.” (Dinukil dan disetujui oleh Al-Hafizh Ibnu Hajar dalam Al-Talkhis Habir 3:1108)

Imam Ibnu Atsir berakta dalam An-Nihayah fi Gharibil Hadis 2:385 mengatakan, “Maksud Nabi shalallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam adalah tawadhu’ (rendah hati) dan agar tidak termasuk orang-orang yang sombong dan angkuh.”

Wallahu a'lam.

Tapi jika kita melihat bagaimana Rasulullah memang menjalani kehidupan dengan gaya hidup yang sederhana dan bagaimana keadaan ekonomi Rasulullah ketika beliau meninggal, maka tidak menutup kemungkinan bahwa makna miskin yang disebut dalam doa Rasulullah tersebut memang miskin dalam makna sebenarnya.

Kita sama-sama mengetahui kisah haru Umar ibnu Khattab yang menangis ketika menjumpai Rasulullah SAW di tempat Beliau singgah. Antum bisa membaca kisahnya lagi di link berikut: madinatulilmi.com

Antum juga bisa mencoba memaknai sendiri arti miskin yang dimaksudkan dalam doa Rasulullah tersebut setelah membaca riwayat lengkap yang menceritakannya. Berikut riwayatnya.
Aisyah mendengar Rasulullah berdoa : "Ya Allah, jadikanlah gaya hidupku seperti gaya hidup orang miskin, cabutlah nyawaku dalam keadaan miskin, lalu kumpulkanlah aku pada Hari Kiamat bersama kelompok orang miskin".

Mendengar doa itu Aisyah protes : "Mengapa engkau berdoa seperti itu wahai Rasulullah ?", Beliau menjawab :

"Orang-orang miskin akan masuk Sorga 40 tahun lebih awal dari pada orang-orang kaya, wahai Aisyah jangan pernah menolak orang-orang miskin meski engkau hanya bisa memberi separuh biji korma, cintailah orang miskin dan dekatkanlah mereka kepadamu agar Allah juga mendekatkanmu kepadaNYA pada Hari kiamat nanti". [HR.Tirmidzi, Baihaqi dan Mundziri]
Astaghfirullah..

Sudah seberapa dekat kita dengan orang-orang miskin?
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